Kanye Loves Kim...Kind of
A recent headline caught my particular attention wherein the ever present and famous Kim Kardashian was the subject of a new song written just for her by her also-famous boyfriend, Kanye West. (at left)
Now, what woman wouldn't want a song written in her honor, extolling her loveliness and beauty?
Except when the song written for you and about to be released to a global audience is called, Perfect B****.
Ahem.
Really?
Oh, yes, Kanye's ode to his beloved bears the title, Perfect B****.
And in case there was any confusion over whom the song was about, Kanye tweeted yesterday that the song was indeed about Kim. Read the whole story here (if you want your eyes to fly out of your head).
Now, even though Hollywood is not the starting place to look for virtue, is this what passes for a compliment these days? Really? Referring to a woman in that regard is a compliment? God help us all.
That Kanye would write a song like this says a lot about him but it also says a lot about what Kim thinks of herself.
Here is a woman who is followed by millions of people and upheld by the media for her gifts of physical beauty. She graces the covers of magazines, has her own TV show and is wealthy beyond measure. Yet, she thinks so little of herself that she allows a man she supposedly loves to publicaly call her a b**** and it doesn't seem to even faze her (after the song was released, she tweeted that she missed her "prince").
Why would Kim not only tolerate but embrace that kind of bad behavior and disrespect? Because of the attention it brings to her? Or perhaps maybe she believes deep within that she doesn't deserve any better? Sad, sad.
And this is what we call a lifestyle of success and happiness? No way. It's a total lie.
I was unloading my thoughts about this sad reality to one of my friends who is a seminarian and he astutely pointed out, "That situation is the result of accepting contraception and rejecting Humane Vitae." I pondered my friend's words a lot and I think they are very true.
Because people have separated sexual intimacy from a marital covenant and openness to life, all that sexual intimacy is seen as is a recreational activity with whom people are interchangeable and pleasure is the only goal.
After being reduced to collection of body parts and an object of pleasure, being called a "perfect b****" to a global audience isn't so daunting.
As I consider my reading audience, I realize I am probably preaching to the choir about this topic but let me say one last thing.
Is chemically or surgically sterilizing ourselves as women really so liberating? Is having Melinda Gates promote more and more contraception and abortion to third-world countries really in keeping with the dignity of women? What, women are so stupid and animalistic that we can't know our own body rhythms and live in accordance with nature?
Sandra Fluke introduced President Obama at a rally today in Colorado. The sign on the podium where Obama gave his speech read, 'Women's Health Security.' Fluke extolled Obama for giving women access to the care they need. Hmm.... Care and security to.....? chemically sterilize ourselves for free? abort our children and bear life-long scars? Allow ourselves to be used as play things and then discarded when our "use" has worn out? Whee.
Welcome to our fundamentally unreasonable society where truth is proclaimed as falsehood and falsehood is proclaimed as truth.
I say no to all of the above. Women are competent, brilliant and beautiful. Our fertility is not the enemy, lust and disorder are the enemy. We do not need billionaires and celebrities to tell us what is in our best interest and what we really want.
The true answer rests deeply within our own hearts where Catholic philosopher Edith Stein (St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross, whose feast day is tomorrow) says that "the question [of who we really are] is answered once and for all by the one who is drawn by God himself into the soul's own inmost region and has surrendered there in the union of love." The Science of the Cross
Amen to that, Sister!
May St. Teresa continue to pray for us; that we would be restored to sanity, truth and beauty.
P.S.- Kim, dump him.
Comments
I think there are a lot of things at play here. 1) I think that the nature of language is that over time it degrades in the ears of those who hear it and vulgarities, insults, or profanity begins to lose its force with people. Hence, b****, f***, s***, c***, m***********, etc become so overused and so commonplace that people become numb to what you're actually invoking or saying about the person you're addressing and yourself. I think that's part of it; in Western youth culture, to call someone a c*** or b**** is like using a nickname for them with some people. The problem is that this is not simply evolution of language, its just becoming numb to how vulgar we've become and how little we respect others and ourselves, especially women.
2) It truly is horrible how women are treated in our time. It's just truly sad. The great experiment of feminism has not succeeded in empowering women or strengthening them in their essential identity, rather it has weakened men and lowered expectations from them, turning them into people like Kanye West. I feel so bad for women these days.. I make it my goal to restore chivalry and masculine honor in my own life at least.
Thank you for working to restore chivalry and masculine honor! We sorely need it.
I am not sure that Contraception is primarily to blame for the demise of respect and human decency, though. More likely the reverse is true - the popularity of contraception may be the symptom.
As for blaming the President for Reality TV?