Miley Cyrus Misses the Mark (And the Neckline As Well)...
"It’s ignorant not to talk to your kids about it or [not] make it seem as magical or cool as it actually is,” she said.
Good point, Miley. Parents are the first and primary educators of their children and their lives stand as a powerful instrument of formation.
Miss Cyrus then goes on to say, "The girls that really base how much they’re worth on the sexual favors they can do for somebody, that makes me really sad...your worth isn’t based on [sex]," she added. "Your worth is based on how you feel about yourself.”
Okay, here is the issue. And this is why it rings untrue coming from this 19-year-old girl who showed up to the Billboard Music Awards on Sunday only wearing a white jacket. Yes, that's it. Only a jacket. No pants, no shirt underneath. Everything was on display. This is a problem because it reveals a deeper issue.
Miley mentions that a person's worth isn't based on sex and that is true. When we as women especially try to find our value in how sexually available or attractive we are, we sell ourselves out and destroy ourselves in the process. We are not made to be the sexual play toys of others.
But her line of thought is deeply flawed when she says, "Your worth is based on how you feel about yourself." This is completely untrue. Our worth is based on far more than that and goes far beyond our feelings.
And isn't this flawed thought process really the reason why we as women dress so immodestly, because deep within we are afraid of being unlovable and being abandoned, so we trade our true beauty for a few moments of shallow affirmation?
Our worth is based on the truth that we are created by God and that He delights in us. He wills us into being through the glorious coming together of man and woman. It is He who gives life and creates so intimately. There is nothing that can take away His love for us and no one can give us the dignity we so deeply crave. That dignity is a gift from God and he reveals it to us on a deeper level whenever we turn to Him.
Our feelings come and go, they pass like the wind. We as human beings are eternal. Yes, the marital embrace is magical, it is ecstatic- a going out of oneself- within this covenant of marriage. It is a work between a husband and wife where fear and shame are expelled and joy and authentic love become the hallmarks of the union.
This type of union isn't found outside of the covenant of marriage because the grace is not present. The physical pleasure may be found outside the covenant but it leaves the person starving, thirsty and bereft of true life.
We as women cannot buy into the lie that feelings and small articles of clothing will bring us value and worth.
We long for more and we deserve better.
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